Thigh high boots

Lately I´ve noticed that thigh high boots are becoming more popular to wear, but it could be that these women are secretly more into kink. Still it´s not like 50% of all the women wear them, but slowly they´ve become more popular. Even for those that don´t like thigh high boots there are knee high boots, which comes pretty close to the delicious thigh high boots. Working your way up with your tongue on thigh high boots isn´t easily matched by any other type of boots, though many would probably love to try.

What I find interesting is that people often see thigh high boots as something worn by a dominatrix, a stripper or a prostitute. As if it´s forbidden for women with a different job to wear them!!!! Besides I doubt every dominatrix, stripper or prostitute wears them. But thigh high boots are a good way to get someones attention, though some people might be focused a bit too much on the boots and won´t pay that much attention to what you say. Still that´s a risk I´d be willing to take!

The first time I walked in thigh high boots I felt like a queen, maybe that was more my imagination then the power of the boots but it sure felt good. Even now I wear them from time to time, preferbly when I´m not walking around too much because they´re not always the fastest way of travelling. My boots also have a zipper, which is probably less popular with the way that looks but a lot easier when putting them on and later taking them off. I already have more than enough fun with laces when putting on my corset!!!!

If you´re still not convinced that thigh high boots look sexy, then maybe this will change your mind.

Dark roleplay

As a goth I´m naturally drawn to the dark side of life, which include a lot of things but it doesn´t mean I´m bound to any of them by default. The last couple of years vampires have become popular, well maybe they have always been popular but thanks to certain movies and series the popularity seems to be bigger than ever. Unfortunately not all of these movies or series are what you would call something every vampire lover would like to sink his or her teeth in. Which has lead to some strange sparkling or brooding teenage vampires, which is all great for some people but doesn´t really add anything interesting for others. Even in roleplay you see some people having fantasies of playing parts from those movies or series, while others absolutely having nothing with that. So what to do if you´re dealing with one of those fanpire, combination of fan (boy or girl) and vampire, and they wish to play such parts in the bedroom?

Now don´t get me wrong, I like to bite and I´m absolutely not scared by the sight of blood. I´d sink my nails in your back and sink my teeth in your neck, it wouldn´t bother me at all. But when someone comes to me and wants me to play as a sparkling vampire I draw the line. It´s not that I can´t respect them, sure if that´s what they like then that´s fine with me. But I refuse to be any part of that, as my view of vampires is different then what they show to people these days. I´m not the one to turn down an attractive person, especially in a shiny outfit, but I´d say the fanpire stuff will have to stay out. Unless they´re willing to play in one of my fantasies where I nail them to a cross and torture them for days, I´d say that makes it worth it!!!!

Something that I find interesting is where someone would play a vampire hunter and the other would be a vampire, that could lead to some interesting roleplay and torture fits in nicely. Maybe a vampire with a werewolf pet? A necromancer with his or her beloved zombie maid? Is that twisted? Well seeing that some like rainbows and bubblegum, I´d say that there are some that like things a bit different and it´s no suprise that this is darker. I haven´t even spoken of the pagan and the missionary, which can lead to some intense roleplay. Spanking someone with a bible has something devine about it, both on the giving and receiving end.

When things get too hot

When you´re in a session with a sub then it can happen that things get hot, you get aroused and feelings of lust are no stranger at these moments. So how do you react to that? As a professional dom/domme it´s probably not a good idea to give in to such temptations during the session, but afterwards you could explore such feelings and see where it goes. Though it might not be a good idea to keep this sub as a client, as the lines between business and pleasure should remain even if they can be a bit vague at times.

During a session a client of mine, a transwoman, got an erection. She was very ashamed of that and couldn´t stop apologizing. She takes hormones but I guess when things get too hot it´s not avoidable to get turned on. I don´t see it as something you should apologize for, in a way I take it as a compliment because it means that I´m doing something right. It´s not that I´m completely cold to the things I do, seeing someone bound in rubber makes me wet just the same as most latex lovers but it doesn´t mean that I break my own rules.

But maybe sometimes things can get out of control, then it´s better to end the session. As tempting as it might be to have sex at those moments, sometimes it´s better to walk away than to give in. If the feelings remain and the other has similar feelings then you can always explore those in your private time. It´s not impossible or unthinkable that a relationship is impossible between a dom/domme and a sub, but a relationship with a client is probably not a good idea. Still you can move from dom/domme and client to a more personal relationship.

I can definately advise you to talk with your dom/domme or client if such situations might occur, in the end it´s just human nature to get turned on by something or someone you like. If you have a good connection with the other then such a conversation shouldn´t feel awkward or unpleasant, just be honest how you feel and who knows maybe the feelings are mutual. There is nothing wrong with a sub licking your boots, but what if he or she could be licking something else...

Catsuit, it doesn´t get any better!!!!

I think it´s safe to say that a catsuit is my favourite piece of clothing, which might suprise some because it covers up most of your body. Well revealing your body isn´t what I find attractive, it´s a nicely shaped body in a shiny outfit that I find interesting. Wether it´s on a man or a woman, a catsuit seems to bring the best out of you. Though it would help if you have a good figure, I doubt seeing someone squeeze into a catsuit and not being able to fit in is arousing for anyone. But it takes all kinds of people to make the world go round!

I remember the first time I saw someone in a catsuit, funny enough it was actually someone wearing a Catwoman costume. At first I couldn´t believe that something like that could exist, it looked so forbidden and yet so appealing. Of course things that seem to be forbidden are often the more interesting things in life. I had to wait a lot of years until I had my first catsuit but once in my possession I couldn´t stop wearing it.

Did you know that some people wear a catsuit under their casual clothes? A lot of latex lovers like to feel latex on their skin so they wear some latex clothing underneath their casual clothes, sometimes that also means that they wear a latex catsuit. It would be a bit more difficult in Summer, if not less pleasant with the heat, to wear a catsuit but in Winter it´s probably worn quite a lot. I don´t think you would ever look the same way at your colleague if you knew that he or she was wearing a latex catsuit under his or her clothes.

There are different styles of catsuits but I like the one without covering up the hands and feet, also I personally prefer a black catsuit and with the zipper covered up. But I wouldn´t say no to any other type of catsuit. I guess the only problem I have with a catsuit is that it´s expensive, usually for a good reason but that doesn´t make it easier to buy one. So is it money well spend or a waste of money? Well that would depend on you, they´re expensive but well worth the money when you look at the fun you can have with it. Though always buy quality, even if that means buying something expensive.

The hard truth

For some it´s non negotiable, but for others it´s a must. I guess it depends how you and your partner look at it, also who plays what role. What am I talking about? I´m talking about a strap-on, a big (rubber) cock to pleasure someone with. It comes in very handy when you´re missing certain parts, though it´s not forbidden to use it when you do have those parts. Have you ever tried it? I think most people would say no, maybe they´re scared or others just don´t feel like using that on themself or others. But it´s something you can use when dominating someone.

It´s not strange for a dominatrix to wear a strap-on, which is often worshiped by a sub. But just like a whip it´s not something that is required for a dominatrix to have in her possession to be seen as one. For those that are intimate with their sub the strap-on brings more submission and humiliation in the picture, but it´s really an optional item that isn´t required to enjoy your time with a sub. Also it´s probably not something for a first session with a sub, espcially as a professional dom/domme you´ll probably leave it out. Most likely because as a professional you don´t get intimate with your client.

But for the amateurs or the recreationals there is enough fun to have with this never failing joystick. The strap-on keeps your hands free so you don´t have to keep it in place, so you have both your hands free to do other things. I would like to add that a professional dom/domme sometimes also uses a strap-on, though this isn´t for sexual pleasure with a client. But then again things are different for some people and the rules for one are not always the rules for another. Just keep in mind that a dom/domme with a strap-on doesn´t mean that you´re going to have sex.

Is a strap-on a girls best friend? Well maybe some would say that, though I doubt that a strap-on is better than having a whole man. Sure not every specimen might be that interesting but the same can be said about women, so up to this point I haven´t found that special strap-on that could replace a man. I just know that I enjoy my strap-on, it´s always ready and doesn´t need anything but a nice place to keep it. A strap-on could bring some spice into a boring relationship, with some role reversal or double pleasure. But try to remember that you can´t stick everything in certain places, it might be tempting but you should really stick to the things that are made for that!!!!

Unexpected but true

When you talk about someones fetish, then it´s not always something obvious. Sure some people have a love for latex and leather, well probably a lot of people, but it´s not all that there is. Sometimes it´s something casual or something you wouldn´t expect. For some people it´s difficult to bring it up, because they feel ashamed about it or think that they´re weird that this makes them aroused. But sharing how something turns you on is nothing to be ashamed off, though maybe it´s a good idea to check carefully first if you´re uncertain about it.

It doesn´t always have to be complicated, sometimes it´s simple like make-up (for example a certain type of lipstick) or an accesory (for example a choker). Do you know what makes you aroused? Usually that´s the key to spice up your sex life, unless you´re happy with the standard stuff and don´t feel like adding something to that. But you would be missing out on a lot of fun, so why would you deny yourself that?

But there are things that aren´t accepted or tolerated by most people, sometimes for good reasons. I don´t think that you´ll be alone if you feel in a certain way, but it might be difficult to find someone to openly admit that like that as well. I guess the internet gives you a good chance to find like minded people but the internet is also a good place for people to pretend, so always be careful when you reveal yourself and/or your fetishes.

Personally I like equestrians, I find their outfits arousing and someone that likes horses gets bonus points with me. Maybe it´s their tight pants or their shiny boots, either way I love it!!!! The good thing about this fetish is that it´s not that difficult to find people who are into this or people who wear that. But it´s not always that simple, just remember that communication can get you far. Though a little bit of luck doesn´t hurt as well. Anyway good luck and hopefully you´ll find something to bring some flavour into your sex life!!!!

Too hot for leather

As much as you might appreciate the sun for giving you a little bit of warmth, it´s quite annoying when you´re wearing latex or leather when it´s hot outside. If you´re into sweat and all that then I guess you don´t have a problem, but I think it´s safe to say that for most of us it´s not that pleasant. Warm weather and leather don´t seem to go well together, especially not if you´re out in the sun being active.

So imagine being intimate with someone else while wearing leather, that makes you even hotter and I think your sweat gland might reach a critical limit. No matter how horny you are, if the other person smells then it´s a big turn off. Unless you´re willing to risk it, though I would definately not recommend it!!!!

Leather is great when it´s colder, so you´ll probably have the best time to wear it in Autumn and Spring. Though a mild Winter might be pleasant as well. Summer is less pleasant for leather, unless it´s a very mild Summer and you don´t do much while wearing leather. So does that mean you can´t play while wearing leather in Summer? Well if you find a way to stay cool, then it would be a shame not to.

Some people do seem to like the smell of sweat, like a foot that comes out of a boot that has been worn on a hot day. But that´s not something you want to risk with someone you just met or when you´re not certain if the other like that. It might seem odd for the other if you start sniffing at their feet while they just want to wash their feet.

I´m stubborn, so I don´t stop wearing leather in Summer and sometimes I pay dearly for that. But when you love something, when you truly enjoy wearing something then you shouldn´t be scared off by a little bit of discomfort. Instead wear your leather jacket, pants, boots and/or gloves. Maybe the smelly leather will attract a fetish lover and you´ll be even hotter at night. Enjoy!!!!