Thigh high boots

For me thigh high boots are a part of the ultimate fantasy, I can´t really describe what makes them so special but seeing someone wear them or walking around in them myself just feels good. With feeling good I mean that it makes me horny as hell. Especially the shiny version with the long heels, the laces look good but if I´m wearing them myself I prefer zippers. It takes some time to get them on but once you walk around in them you feel good and you look good!

Unfortunately not everyone feels that way, at least not openly, because women in thigh high boots are often mistaken for prostitutes. Of course this is ridiculous, as if a woman can´t walk around in thigh high boots just because she likes them. I´m glad though that more and more women seem to break free from closed minded thinking and just wear them when they feel like it. I almost have to control myself not to compliment someone for wearing thigh high boots in public, it´s a nice sight and it brings some beauty in sneakers and ankle boots society.

Thigh high boots are also expensive, at least if you want something good. But like so many things in life, if it´s good then you´re probably willing to pay a bit more. You´ll be suprised that there are many places where you can buy them, though the offer is probably bigger than the demand. Unless a lot of people do buy them but wear them in private. Which is something I do understand, but it´s still a shame.

In some movies thigh high boots also show up, for example in the dark knight rises. I don´t think I have to put the Halle Berry Catwoman next to the Anne Hathaway Catwoman to show you the difference, don´t get me wrong I think Halle Berry looks good but she´s just nowhere near Anne Hathaway as Catwoman. Do the thigh high boots make the difference? Well that would be too much honour, but I do think it´s part of what makes that outfit look better! If you don´t believe me then feel free to watch both movies and see for yourself!

An older lover

I think there was a time and a place that it wasn´t uncommon to marry to someone that was older than you, this someone would usually be a man and you would be a woman. There would often be an arranged marriage smell to this union, but if it works then who really cares. These days people marry or get together with people that are of all ages and genders. The barriers that seem to once hold certain people apart now seem to be broken, making sometimes unusual couples.

Probably one of the first things you hear when people talk about a couple, where one of the two is (a lot) older than the other, is that the younger only stays with the older for the money. I´m not saying that this is false, but I doubt this is the truth in every relationship. So what is so special about having an older lover? Well experience can definately bring some nice suprises, for example positions you´re unfamiliar with or just some old school moves. Some also claim that older lovers are more faithful, I don´t know if that true because a cheater is a cheater and it doesn´t mean that a cheater won´t cheat on you when he or she gets older.

If you´re interested in someone that is older than you, then there shouldn´t be a problem to talk about that. See if the other also has feelings for you and then explore those feelings together. It´s nice if you can make it work, have a relationship and all that. But if it doesn´t work, for some reason, then at least you tried. Society might frown upon relationships between two people of different ages, but really this is nothing new and it shouldn´t keep you from being with someone you love.

I´ve had an older lover, she´s 20 years older and as horny as a teenager. We both have an interest in BDSM so that really made things interesting in the bedroom, but also outside the bedroom! Not once did I feel weird to be with a woman that is a lot older than me, because we were in love and you don´t think about age when you´re in love. The sex was great and I never felt like I should take it easy with her, because she could keep up just fine with me and I think she might even be wilder than I could imagine.

Accidental turn on

Have you ever wrestled with a friend and discovered you had an erection or that you got wet? Did you get a hug from that hot nephew or niece and discovered that you´re rock hard or soaking wet? Then my fellow sinner you´ve had an accidental turn on, which isn´t actually a sin but I guess some people might see it that way. It´s not a crime actually to get turned on by someone else, but it might be a bit awkward if it´s a relative or a good friend.

But it doesn´t always have to be a person, it could be a situation or an object even. Getting excited seeing someone eating a banana or suck on a lollipop. Having someone rub against your back in the train when he or she is moving behind you. There isn´t always foul play at work, sometimes these things happen and your body might not always recognize the innocence of it. Which might lead to you getting turned on or a sudden need to pleasure yourself. Either way, it´s awkward when you´re in the company of others that prefer not to see that side of you.

So how do you avoid an accidental turn on? Well since they´re accidental I doubt there is much you can do, but it might help if you pleasure yourself more often. Blow off some steam and the pressure might be less, so you don´t get turned on that quickly. Still for some people it´s only a look or a touch that is enough to get them turned on, in that case it might be better not to leave the house. Though that might make you socially awkward....

Getting turned on isn´t a bad thing, you´re not a villain if you get an erection or if you get wet. Guess what, most people get turned on but it´s not often something you´d talk about with family or friends. If you think it´s inappropriate to get turned on by a certain person or something then you should talk about that with someone you trust, I wouldn´t recommend keeping it all to yourself and suffer the torture every time you see that person. Who knows, maybe that friend feels the same about you and you can be more than friends. Though feeling a hard cock against your body or smelling a wet vagina does make it clear as well, it´s just a bit less subtle!

Cyber sex

In this age it´s different to get around it, computers are everywhere and if you want to speak with your friends you´re often required to go online. It´s not much different with finding that special someone or just someone to have sex with. Thanks to the internet the world is at your fingertips, people who live far away can be as close to you as is possible with modern technology. Cyber sex is one of the ways you can get more intimate with someone, without actually touching them. The question is, is this something you´re interested in and if so do you think it leads to something more?

I´ll let you in on a little secret, well I doubt it´s a secret but I´ll tell it anyway. Some people go crazy when they see a woman in latex or leather, it often brings out the idiot in them and they want to get to know you. I say get to know you but to be honest they wish they could get intimate with you, but distance often keeps that from happening so the next thing they´ll ask will be if you want to cyber. This often leads to refusal and so the quest for some cyber sex continues, apparently it´s just too much of a bother to go out and actually meet people.

But is it all so bad? Is cyber sex really just a sad way of getting intimate with someone? I´d say it really depends with whom you´d want to do that. With a stranger might seem exciting but it´s nice if you know at least something about the other before you get into that. For example if the attractive woman you saw in the picture actually is a woman and not just a man pretending to be that woman. But it´s also important that the person you want to cyber with isn´t a creep, someone that says weird things and goes into stalker mode from that moment on. Always choose your partner wisely, just as you´d would with real sex.

Cyber sex isn´t bad, but it could never replace real sex for me. In the movie Demolition man you see Sylvester Stallone having future sex with Sandra Bullock, they both have a helmet on and that projects images into the other persons mind. The weird thing is, while they´re doing that they´re in the same room with eachother and they can see eachother. It´s a nice idea for the future, but when you´re in the same room with someone else isn´t it just better to have real sex?

Angry sex vs make up sex

Maybe some of you think that it doesn´t matter, sex is sex and it should both be good. But that´s not what I´m after, I´m trying to figure out what is better. In a relationship people often say that make up sex is the best type of sex, I don´t know if they really mean that or if they just say what other people are saying. Angry sex is more violent, I don´t mean that people will bleed and that a vagina gets utterly destroyed in the process but it´s less innocent. So how to choose between these two, what would you prefer?

Let´s first look at angry sex, this might seem like an unhealthy type of sex that could even be considered dangerous to some people. Angry sex isn´t sex with a knife on your throat, that seems more like rape or if done with a willing partner rape play. It´s more like you had a bad day at school or work, the food is horrible and the weather is bad. You have a lot of frustration in you and you need to let it out, but at the same time you´re horny as can be. If your partner feels the same way then you can start having some angry sex, though it doesn´t require both people to feel that way. It´s not for the faint hearted and if you like rainbows and unicorns then this is probably not for you!

Make up sex is exactly what it means, after a fight in a relationship you make up with sex. It´s much more innocent and less intense than angry sex, so for a more vanilla type of relationship this might be more appropriate. It´s not bad sex, absolutely not, but it´s so sweet and innocent that it doesn´t turn me on. Sure I get horny when stimulated properly, but I can´t say that it does it all for me.

It´s not difficult to figure out what I prefer, but I don´t want to talk too badly about make up sex because it definatly has some benefits. It´s just that I prefer angry sex, stretching some poor virgin and make him or her scream so the neighbours can´t sleep. To be honest with you, there is no loser between angry sex and make up sex. Whatever you choose, you´ll still get lucky!

Forbidden fruit

If we believe what the bible says then there was this piece of fruit that made us more aware of who we are and what´s going on, also after eating that piece of fruit people started having sex with eachother. So maybe it wasn´t so bad to eat it? Anyway food seems to play a role during sex (for some people), from thinking about to actually eating or using it for pleasure. Some people actually get turned on by food, though I´d rather not think about how that would look.

Your parents probably told you as a child that you shouldn´t play with your food, well it seems that some people do like to play with their food and do naughty things like sticking a banana in their exit hole. Now that might be a bit extreme but some consider that as pleasure, though some people also consider eating a delicious steak as pleasure. But just sticking food in certain places doesn´t mean that´s all to it, some people rub grapes in someones face or put whipped cream on their nipples.

The good thing of food is that it´s not hard to get it and the prices are often reasonable, so instead of getting a dildo you get a banana. The problem with food is that it won´t stay good for long, so it would always be a temporarily thing. Personally I have a problem with using food for pleasure, I mean I like pleasure like everyone else but using food for that seems like a waste. Because when I pleasure myself with a banana I don´t feel like eating it anymore, though some might disagree and still eat it. So imagine that banana to be inside someone else, that doesn´t make it more appealing for me to eat!

What I find interesting about this fetish is that some people seem to be ashamed for it. Even when they know the other also has some kinky fetishes, people with a food fetish still seem to be reserved talking about their food fetish. Which is ridiculous, because who doesn´t like to lick some whipped cream from nipples? If you´re honest and have an understanding partner they´ll be more accepting then you´d think. Though you might have to do something for them as well, but that only seems fair to me!

Living in a cage

This might seem odd to you but in truth a lot of us live in a cage, with our daily habits and automatic behaviour we´ve created a cage in which we feel comfortable and protected. But this isn´t about that, this is about people who really live, or at least spend a lot of time, in a real cage. Is this weird? I guess to some people it seems weird, though I must admit that people who spend a lot of time in a cage are a bit extreme. But it´s nothing new in BDSM, to use a cage to take away someones freedom.

Of course there are easier ways to dominate a sub, it doesn´t always include fancy toys or expensive devices. But for those that wish to invest a bit in their hobby, a cage can be a nice addition to your dungeon. With a cage you take away the freedom of your sub, they become completely dependent and they´re at the mercy of their Dom/Domme. Maybe some Doms/Dommes keep cages as decoration, though personally I´d think that would be shame not to use it.

It goes without saying that a cage isn´t for everyone, being in a confined space isn´t something everyone can handle and pushing someone in such a situation can lead to a panic. So make certain that you know what you´re doing before you get in the cage, also as a Dom/Domme don´t force your sub into something that will cause him or her to panic. You might think it´s funny, but if it were you in that situation it would probably be less funny for you.

Some people say that living in a cage changes you. If you´re talking about the hour you spend in it on a daily basis then I can´t take you seriously. But for those that are committed to staying in the cage for months, then I´d say that you might be right. I would like to add to this that it´s not healthy and I wouldn´t recommend it to anyone. Still if you feel like it and you have a Dom/Domme that you trust, then go for it!