Wearing latex under casual clothes

Have you ever done that? Wearing some latex clothes under your casual clothes? It´s a way of getting away with wearing what you like without anyone knowing it. It makes perfect sense to me when people do that, but it´s not very comfortable when it´s warm and even in cold times wearing latex under casual clothes might be a bit too much. Maybe some people enjoy being sweaty in latex, but I can´t say I agree with that.


I prefer to wear latex without any cover up, it has nothing to do with pride or showing off but it´s really the way I like it. I feel like I´m smothering myself by covering up my latex clothes with casual clothes. I´m not ashamed of wearing latex clothes, but seeing how the opinions of some people can be quite harsh I do understand people that do wish to hide their latex clothes. But is it really something you should be ashamed of?


In a lot of futuristic movies I see latex outfits, which gives me a little bit of hope that in the future it might actually be accepted. But so far it´s still something weird, at least that´s how a lot of people call it when they see someone dressed in latex. But is it really that weird? I mean if you want to express yourself then why should you worry about what others think? Latex isn´t weird, denying yourself something because you worry what someone else might think of it is weird in my opinion.


I think it´s a shame to cover up latex, because it´s so beautiful and I can´t imagine doing that myself. Of course it makes sense if you don´t want others to know that you wear latex, for whatever reason that might be. People will always have opinions, more often than not those opinions will be different than yours. So if you´re hiding latex clothes for others out of fear what they might think of you then it´s a real shame, because you shouldn´t have to do that and a true friend will accept you just the way you are!

Do you actually use your whip?

Lately I´ve been getting a lot of questions about the use of a whip, because some people think that a whip is just for show. Which might be true in some situations but during a session a whip will most likely be used by a Dom/Domme. But usually most Doms/Dommes would have discussed that with their sub(s) before they get started. At least that´s what I´d expect from a professional Dom/Domme, assuming things from someone you don´t know is always bad! Even from someone you do know it can be bad, communication is the key to better understanding and never think that you´re above that!


In a lot of drawings or representations in movies you see a Dom/Domme with a bullwhip which is actually a pretty good whip. But it might be a bit extreme for a sub that isn´t really used to that, which makes perfect sense that you use something a bit less impressive like a paddle or a riding crop. Now don´t get me wrong, you can still do some damage with that but compared to a bullwhip it´s actually not that bad. Sometimes a sub will want to go straight for the whip, he or she wants to be punished and the idea of that seems great to him or her. But then once they feel the first lash of the whip they´re often suprised by the impact and pain, which often results in wanting to stop. Something that is quite understandable if you´re not used to it. If you´re honest to your Dom/Domme and he or she is a professional then I don´t think this is something that could happen, because it´s important to know how much someone can take and if someone is actually up to feeling some lashes from a whip. It´s not for everyone and yes it´s can really hurt!


Do you need practice on handling a whip? It depends on what type of whip you use, I´d say a small whip takes less practice while a big one might take you some time to learn how to handle it. But practice makes perfect and there is no shame in learning that, I doubt there are natural talents that can handle any whipe from the moment they pick it up. What you want to learn is how you can accurately hit your sub without hitting yourself by accident, it seems silly but I´ve seen it happen multiple times. A whip is amazing, but also dangerous in the hands of those who don´t know how to handle it. But you can learn and it does look nice when a Dom/Domme can actually use a whip properly instead of just holding it for show.

Being together when you´re apart

Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? It´s nothing new with all the technology we have now, talking with people all over the world is quite easy. But what if you meet someone special? Someone that makes your heart go faster and makes you feel happy. What if that person lives far away from you? Would that stop you from getting in a relationship with that person or are you going to make it work?


You have all types of people in this world, some need others and then there are people that don´t really need anyone else. At least that´s what some of them say, but sometimes that´s just a way of shielding themselves from getting hurt or moving forward when they prefer to keep things the way they are now. But what if you´re someone that is looking for someone else? Is it important for you that this other person lives close to you or is that something you don´t care about?


Of course it´s better for a relationship if you can meet eachother, but also spend some time together every now and then. But it´s not impossible to be with someone that lives far away from you. Unfortunately that will often mean that one of the two will have to make a sacrifice, by moving to the other and that usually means leaving behind family and friends. It´s not impossible, I´ve seen people leave all that they know behind to be with someone they love. It´s nice in a way that they´re willing to make such a sacrifice but at the same time it´s also difficult to move away from the familiar environment and the people that care about you.


What´s I´ve noticed over the years in online communication is that not everyone is willing to put much effort in it, some will ask you quite fast what your email is or if they can Skype with you. Everyone seems to be in a rush, there is no time to get to know eachother and everything has to be quick and easy. I miss the time when you would write a letter to someone you care about, something you can hold in your hands and where you can see the dedication someone put into writing the letter. Sure you have all types of e-cards but it´s not the same. Romance seems to go extinct, we´re all in such a hurry to get from one good time to the other. It´s rare to find people willing to put an effort in something that could be more than a friendship, but at the same time it makes it easier to find people worth your time.

Why don´t you walk on high heels all the time?

I´ve gotten this question several times, often from people who believe that a Domme walks around on high heels all the time. It´s true that I have high heels but it´s not always that practical to wear them, especially when I´m going outside. Not that I´m ashamed to wear high heels but it makes walking a bit less comfortable for me. Because running or walking fast on high heels is often not that easy I prefer to wear platform boots, sure it´s not easy to run with those on either but it´s better than on high heels I can tell you that much?


But it´s a shame that some people still seem to think that a Domme is someone that has to look like the picture they have in their mind, which is of course ridiculous. High heels are just one of the things that are often mentioned when some people describe a Domme. Often it comes down to latex, thigh high boots, a whip and high heels. It´s true that some wear this, I have that as well but is that what defines a Domme?


A lot of people sometimes forget that a Domme is also a person, sure some call themselves a goddess but really we´re all just people like you. I don´t like it when people see me as a fetish, like someone that can satisfy their need for something. With this I mean that they only see me as a fetish and not as a person. If someone has a fantasy of being dominated then I have no problems with that, but when that person only sees me as the person that is going to satisfy his or her fantasy then I can´t say I´m happy about that. The bond between a Dom/Domme and a sub is more than just having the same interest in something.


I did notice that subs that kept asking me why I´m not wearing high heels got quiet when I forced them to wear high heels. Suddenly it was a bit more logic that you don´t wear high heels all the time, of course you´ll always keep the idiots that say whatever they want. These people don´t make good subs anyway, so it´s not a big loss. But I have to admit that I like some understanding and respect, a Domme doesn´t exist to be someones fantasy! Some might disagree, but often these people are on the other end of the whip....

When pain turns you on

I´ve heard from several people how much they like pain, but half of the time I have my doubts about that. Not just the way they say it, but also their motivations of why they consider it a turn on. But why would someone lie about that? I don´t think it´s something you say to impress people or attract people to you. I think that for a lot of people the idea seems like fun or maybe even exciting, but some of these people put themselves in an uncomfortable situation because they misjudged it. This leads to embarrassing moments, because if you´re going to cry like a baby because you got a booboo then don´t  be suprised if people will make fun of you. In BDSM there is something you should keep in mind, don´t pretend to be someone you´re not! But I´d say this counts for most things in your life.


So why are some people pretending to be turned on by pain? I think sometimes it´s because they´ve got an attraction for a Dom/Domme and think that by lying they could get closer to someone. Let me tell you a little secret, you don´t have to be into BDSM to be in a relationship with a Dom/Domme because having a vanilla partner isn´t against any rules. Of course it wouldn´t hurt your chances if you´re into BDSM, still it would be foolish to pretend to be into that and put yourself in a situation you don´t want to be in. If you´re curious and want to try it out then that´s quite alright, just take it easy and don´t let some wannabe Dom/Domme beat the crap out of you. We all have to learn at one point but that doesn´t mean that you should just throw yourself at the first person that´s willing to have you.


What does it mean to get turned on by pain? It means that pain makes your dick hard, your vagina wet and it stimulates your orgasm. But it doesn´t have to be the same as the rest, because we´re all different and it doesn´t have to be exactly like someone else. Some people get turned on when they feel a whip or cane on their buttocks, but then there are also people that get turned on when someone bites them. Is it weird to be turned on by pain? Some people will say yes and others will say no, I say that when it feels good to you then it´s quite alright. It´s weird when you deny yourself of something you like or when you pretend that you like something that you actually don´t like.

A boot fetish is the ultimate fetish?

I love boots, I think people look sexy in boots and I love it when people start wearing boots again after a long Summer. But what makes a boot fetish the ultimate fetish? First of all it´s simple, it´s not something complicated or very expensive (unfortunately some boots can be quite expensive). You see someone with boots on, you find it a turn on that someone wears boots, you admire the person wearing boots and before you know it you´re on your knees licking and kissing the boots. Well that´s a very simple way of a boot fetish fantasy. But I think there is more to it, it´s not just boots that are sexy but also the person wearing them. Does the outfit match with the boots and what type of boots do you find sexy? I´ve heard several people that like boots to be as long as possible, which often leads to thigh high boots and crotch boots. But you also have lovers of knee boots and ankle boots. Then there is the type of material. For example do you like leather boots, shiny boots, suede boots or rubber boots? Another factor that can be important is the condition of the boots, are they brand new or completely worn out? Some even find the smell of sweat in the boots a big turn on.


Is someone with a boot fetish weird? If you consider that weird then you´ve clearly haven´t heard of certain other fetishes, the most important thing is that you don´t judge others for their fetish as yours might be just as weird if not even more weird. Of course we all behave as civilized people and pretend we´re normal, but in reality we´re into some weird things and some of these things can be a big turn on. Does that make us weird? Maybe, but it´s not nice to tell people that they´re weird just because their fetish seems strange to you. But I have to agree that sweaty boots aren´t really my thing either, but some nice shiny boots do make me want to bite someone!


Sex in boots is the best type of sex? Well I can´t say I´ve had all types of sex, I doubt anyone has, but sex in boots can be a real turn on. Especially when you have a boot fetish and it will make a guy rock hard and a woman wet, inviting boots into your sex life might seem weird and yet it might give you that extra spark you´re looking for. Wether it´s under the sheets, in a business office or in the stables. Boots come in so many different styles and types that there is probably a pair for everyone. Wearing something that drives your partner wild is a good way to have incredible sex, but that doesn´t mean that you can sit back and relax. Boots are sexy but that doesn´t mean you don´t have to do anything!

Vampires will never hurt you!

Do you have thing for vampires? Maybe it´s thanks to those lovable Twilight movies, but then you also have the more old fashioned burn in the sun type of vampire lovers. Vampires aren´t as popular as they were, but I think a lot of people still have a thing for that and I´m certain a lot of teenage girls still have a dreamy picture of that Twilight guy (I just can´t be bothered to remember the name of that twat). Whatever it is you like, there are all types of vampires out there and so many that might work with your fantasy. But the trick is to find the vampire for you!


Modern vampire vs old fashioned vampire, which is better? I´d say that´s a matter of opinion but I think a lot of people might agree that the classic vampire (to give it a name) is more interesting, the whole sparkle thing doesn´t work for me and I find it actually quite disturbing. It´s like a Disney movie but even worse, oh wait I´m trashing that Twilight movie again huh? I don´t think there is a better version, it´s just a matter of opinion and it doesn´t really matter. If you can find someone else with the same interest as you then it doesn´t matter what the rest of the world thinks!


Vampire roleplay means biting right? Yes that means biting, but I think you´ll be done quickly if that´s all you´re going to do. I think biting is a personal thing and also something you share with someone you trust. I think a vampire wouldn´t just bite anyone, it´s something personal with someone he or she cares about. Of course when a vampire is hungry then things might actually change, I couldn´t say for certain as I´m not a vampire expert. But I´ve had my fair share of vampire roleplay, both with real blood and the more dull with with red wine. As much fun as you might have with that, remember that it´s important that you´re careful. But I think that counts for most kinky things, it´s nice to have fun but always be careful!


Last but not least, do vampires really exist? Who am I to say that they don´t exist, I think there is more going on than we can see and vampires might play a role in that. What I do know is that most people that scream online that they´re a vampire are usually full of crap, so don´t listen to some idiot who claims to be something he or she is not! People that look for real vampires shouldn´t post that online, if a vampire knows that you´re looking for him or her then he or she will find you.