Men that secretly love CD/TV but hide this from their girlfriend/wife

It´s no secret that there are some hot and sexy looking cd´s and tv´s out there, some can really make you stare at the screen as you´re amazed by their beauty. So I don´t find it strange that there are men who are in a relationship with a woman that look up these pictures. That´s not a problem, not at all. The problem is when they bother these cd´s and tv´s with obscure messages and try to hide their own lust for them. Is it so bad that you´re attracted to a cd or tv?

On datingsites it´s nothing new, when a cd or tv (or women in general really) post an ad then there are usually plenty of unpleasant messages. Some are the simple messages with messages like: you´re hot, I want you, suck my dick, etc. There are even men who go so far to contact them and start naughty conversations, but the moment they´re done (which doesn´t take long for most men) it´s over. They don´t contact the cd or tv anymore and probably go sleep next to their girlfriend or wife. Clearly these people are hiding a part of who they are, to like someone but they´re ashamed to admit it. Often their girlfriend or wife has no idea of these fantasies and adventures their boyfriends and husbands have.

Personally I find it stupid to treat people like that, a cd or tv is a person just like you and me. They deserve just as much respect and they shouldn´t be treated as jerk off material, something you can dispose when you´re done. Playing with someones feelings is cruel, but in a way people who behave like that are sad. To lead a life where they always have to lie, to the one they live with and to the one they talk to online.

Isn´t it better just to come clean? To tell your girlfriend or wife the truth, it doesn´t have to mean the end of the relationship and if your partner loves you then maybe you can talk about it. I´m not saying every woman feels like sharing her man with a cd or tv, but maybe you can spice things up in the bedroom. Maybe he has a fantasy to dress up as a woman, discover things together and play. Isn´t that much better than wasting your time online and waste the time of people who actually are looking for someone to be with?

D/s relationships, how to make them work!

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When your boyfriend/husband loves anal

A lot of guys like the standard positions, they just do their thing and at the end of the show they go to sleep. But is that really how it goes for everyone? Did you ever had a fantasy where your girlfriend/wife would penetrate you? A strap-on is a good toy/tool for women who lack  the necessary equipment. But how do you know if your boyfriend husband likes anal?

Well it´s not something you can read on their faces, but when there is trust between you and your partner you´ll feel more comfortable to share private information. Even information that might be sensitive and something that they´ll want to stay secret for as long as possible. If you want to spice things up in the bedroom then anal is something different that you both can try, the fun thing is that it works for both partners. Wether you´re male or female, as far as I know most people have the necessary entry/exit hole!

Some guys are worried that having an anal fantasy makes them gay. Well for all of you who has this idea, don´t worry about it. If your partner is a woman, if you´re only attracted to women then you´re still straight. Even when your girlfriend/wife is inches deep with her strap-on inside you, it doesn´t make you gay. I guess there is a gray area when it comes to transsexuals, but if you see them as a woman and they want you to see them as a woman then in my opinion it doesn´t make you gay. You´re attracted to them for being and looking like a woman, so that still counts as being straight in my book! But there is no shame is being bisexual, so don´t worry too much about it.

A little bit of advice for having anal sex for the first time! If you´re the one penetrating someone for the first time then make certain that you don´t go in wild. You can really hurt and damage someone if you´re not careful! Start slowly and then you can increase the pace a bit, but for a first time you don´t want to go all rodeo style on someone. Especially if it´s also the first time for the receiver! If you don´t want to go anal then make that clear, no matter how much the other whines or begs. It´s your body and if you´re uncomfortable with something then don´t do it!

Online Doms/Dommes

Thanks to our technology we can contact eachother from miles away, this makes it easier to form friendships and relationships. Also for Doms/Dommes it´s a way to get in touch with subs, but how reliable is this type of communication? Are online Doms/Dommes real Doms/Dommes or just pretenders?

It´s difficult to say who someone really is if you´ve never met him or her and the contact is only through messages online. But this doesn´t make someone a liar, it´s just another way of people reaching out to other people. Of course not everyone is who they say they are, so it might be tricky to find a real Dom/Domme. But there are ways of checking if someone is real and when someone is pretending.

Profiles without pictures are usually suspicious, because if you can´t even see one picture then they clearly have something to hide. Also be cautious when you see pictures that look too good to be true, I´m not saying that every attractive person online is a fake but people like to use pictures of other people when they are not happy with their own appearance. But it´s not all bad, some people are shy or they just don´t want to be recognized by family or friends. Pay attention what people are talking about, Doms/Dommes who know little about BDSM are either new or just not who they say they are. Don´t be afraid to ask questions, there is nothing wrong with some curiosity!!!!

So does an online D/s relationship work? Well it could, but just like an online vanilla relationship it will take a lot of work on both sides. Always be cautious though, some people like to get private information from you and that can lead to less friendly situations. My advice is to listen to your feelings, if you feel like you can trust the other then go for it. But if something feels wrong, even the slightest thing, then you should be on your guard.

For people who are uncomfortable at events or don´t have the courage to go to a Dom/Domme can always try to find someone online. Maybe if you build up a bond with someone you can meet up, but this isn´t always what´s necessary. But if you´re only going to have online contact then I don´t know how long it´s going to last, there might be a point in someones life that they want more. Maybe then you have to ask yourself if you want more, if being online with someone is enough....

How to get in touch with a Dom/Domme?

I don´t know how good your communication skills are but from my personal experience I don´t get a lot of proper messages. Most of the time I don´t even get messages just invites to be friends with some random douchebag. I don´t know how this works out for them with other people but I seriously doubt that it leads to anything good. It doesn´t take a lot to say hi, besides if you don´t feel like saying hi then why would a Dom/Domme feel like adding you as a friend?

If you write to a Dom/Domme always be polite, don´t assume things and definately don´t go into details from the start what you want. A good idea is to first introduce yourself and tell a little bit about yourself, then you can ask some questions but for a first message it´s better to be short and to the point. What I mean with that is that you don´t talk about the weather or how much you like cats, it can be fascinating to talk about once you know eachother better but it´s not interesting to talk about in a first message.

Not every Dom/Domme finds it important that you write about him or her with capital letters. Like Him or Her, but to be safe you can start with that because some do prefer that or even demand that! Always be respectful, so it´s better to be formal than informal. Try not to be a suck up, some Doms/Dommes might like that but some really hate that. If a Dom/Domme likes that, then he or she will mention it. Don´t assume anything, get to know someone and then maybe you get an idea who he or she is. Just remember that you get to know someone as good as the other lets you.

So where do you find Doms/Dommes? Well you can find Doms/Dommes at meetings or fetish events. If you don´t feel comfortable around that many people you can find Doms/Dommes on fetish websites, maybe even dating sites if you´re lucky. A friendly reminder, just because you´re polite and friendly doesn´t mean that you get a reaction from a Dom/Domme. Maybe they´re busy, some Doms/Dommes get a lot of messages, or maybe they´re not interested. On a website try to have an interesting profile, have some pictures of you and tell a bit about yourself. If you go to a meeting or event try to look good and don´t act like a creep. That should get you further than hi how are you doing?

Uniforms

A man in uniform is sexy, you´ve probably heard of that but is this true and can the same be said about a woman in uniform? I like uniforms, well not all of them but some definately look good. But a lot of uniforms are worn too much, as if they have nothing else in their closet to wear. If you´re going to dress up then try something else every now and then, you don´t want to be known as the one suit man or woman.

When I look at latex uniforms almost everything looks good, I guess the only type of latex uniforms I don´t like are the bright ones because they hurt my eyes. Though having a pink latex friend to play with isn´t something I´d refuse, but I would wear sunglasses! Latex offers you a lot of different uniforms and often with a bit more of a fetish design, but you can still see what type of uniform it´s supposed to be.

Uniforms are fun if you enjoy roleplay, for example the cop that pulls you over for a busted tail light and then you have wild sex in the back of the car. I think the nurse uniform is pretty populair as well, though nurses here don´t really dress like the fetish nurse. Which is a shame though, but I guess it might be too tempting to end up in the hospital otherwise!

People who actually wear a uniform for their job probably wear it a bit more than they have to, at least if the uniform looks good on them. But some uniforms are not supposed to be worn outside work hours, so I guess that isn´t always possible. That´s why your bedroom is probably the best place to wear your uniforms, if it drives your partner wild then things can only get hotter!

As a dominatrix you also wear uniforms, something a dominatrix makes her own uniform. Though the traditional thigh high boots and shiny top with gloves are probably the way most people see a dominatrix. I´ve mentioned it before that not every dominatrix wears that. But I like it and I wear it myself!

Gloves

It´s bloody hot here so one the last things I´d like to think about right now is gloves, but when the temperature is a bit less warm then I like to wear gloves. It´s not that strange really, a century or two ago a lot of people would wear gloves. Usually for formal occasions or just to keep their hands clean. But it´s also a good way to hide less attractive hands. These days people use gloves a lot for work, to protect their hands or in a sterile environment. But I just like to wear them because they feel great and look good!

You have gloves in different sizes and types, personally I like the long ones because I think they look better. But we all have our own favourite, so don´t feel discouraged to wear a type of glove that isn´t populair. It might be more difficult to buy them though, but a lot of fetish shops should have some gloves in stock. As much as I like to have shiny fingers in my gloves I find it more practical to have fingerless gloves, because it makes it easier to handle my whip or other accessories. Of course these fingerless gloves are also in the longer style.

So when or where do you use gloves? I don´t think gloves are only usuable in the bedroom, why not go out with your shiny gloves or have a party at your house. As a Dom/Domme you´ll probably use gloves for a more practical use, but subs might be allowed to kiss them as a sign of worship. They also look good on people who go for the full rubber doll look. Having your hands uncovered might ruin the look, but some nice gloves can help you with that. Also if you´re unhappy about the way your hands look or you just don´t feel like putting nail polish on your hands, then gloves can cover up less attractive hands.

During sex it can be even more exciting for someone to wear (rubber) gloves. For example when you finger a woman or go anal with a guy, when they feel the glove inside them it might be a huge turn on. Otherwise you can always touch their body with your gloves and drive them wild, massage the breasts or cock and before you know it they´re at a boiling point. Just remember to clean your gloves after every use of them, it´s not nice to stick your butt gloves in a vagina!