zondag 23 februari 2014

Wearing latex under casual clothes

Have you ever done that? Wearing some latex clothes under your casual clothes? It´s a way of getting away with wearing what you like without anyone knowing it. It makes perfect sense to me when people do that, but it´s not very comfortable when it´s warm and even in cold times wearing latex under casual clothes might be a bit too much. Maybe some people enjoy being sweaty in latex, but I can´t say I agree with that.

I prefer to wear latex without any cover up, it has nothing to do with pride or showing off but it´s really the way I like it. I feel like I´m smothering myself by covering up my latex clothes with casual clothes. I´m not ashamed of wearing latex clothes, but seeing how the opinions of some people can be quite harsh I do understand people that do wish to hide their latex clothes. But is it really something you should be ashamed of?

In a lot of futuristic movies I see latex outfits, which gives me a little bit of hope that in the future it might actually be accepted. But so far it´s still something weird, at least that´s how a lot of people call it when they see someone dressed in latex. But is it really that weird? I mean if you want to express yourself then why should you worry about what others think? Latex isn´t weird, denying yourself something because you worry what someone else might think of it is weird in my opinion.

I think it´s a shame to cover up latex, because it´s so beautiful and I can´t imagine doing that myself. Of course it makes sense if you don´t want others to know that you wear latex, for whatever reason that might be. People will always have opinions, more often than not those opinions will be different than yours. So if you´re hiding latex clothes for others out of fear what they might think of you then it´s a real shame, because you shouldn´t have to do that and a true friend will accept you just the way you are!

zondag 16 februari 2014

Do you actually use your whip?

Lately I´ve been getting a lot of questions about the use of a whip, because some people think that a whip is just for show. Which might be true in some situations but during a session a whip will most likely be used by a Dom/Domme. But usually most Doms/Dommes would have discussed that with their sub(s) before they get started. At least that´s what I´d expect from a professional Dom/Domme, assuming things from someone you don´t know is always bad! Even from someone you do know it can be bad, communication is the key to better understanding and never think that you´re above that!

In a lot of drawings or representations in movies you see a Dom/Domme with a bullwhip which is actually a pretty good whip. But it might be a bit extreme for a sub that isn´t really used to that, which makes perfect sense that you use something a bit less impressive like a paddle or a riding crop. Now don´t get me wrong, you can still do some damage with that but compared to a bullwhip it´s actually not that bad. Sometimes a sub will want to go straight for the whip, he or she wants to be punished and the idea of that seems great to him or her. But then once they feel the first lash of the whip they´re often suprised by the impact and pain, which often results in wanting to stop. Something that is quite understandable if you´re not used to it. If you´re honest to your Dom/Domme and he or she is a professional then I don´t think this is something that could happen, because it´s important to know how much someone can take and if someone is actually up to feeling some lashes from a whip. It´s not for everyone and yes it´s can really hurt!

Do you need practice on handling a whip? It depends on what type of whip you use, I´d say a small whip takes less practice while a big one might take you some time to learn how to handle it. But practice makes perfect and there is no shame in learning that, I doubt there are natural talents that can handle any whipe from the moment they pick it up. What you want to learn is how you can accurately hit your sub without hitting yourself by accident, it seems silly but I´ve seen it happen multiple times. A whip is amazing, but also dangerous in the hands of those who don´t know how to handle it. But you can learn and it does look nice when a Dom/Domme can actually use a whip properly instead of just holding it for show.

zondag 9 februari 2014

Being together when you´re apart

Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? It´s nothing new with all the technology we have now, talking with people all over the world is quite easy. But what if you meet someone special? Someone that makes your heart go faster and makes you feel happy. What if that person lives far away from you? Would that stop you from getting in a relationship with that person or are you going to make it work?

You have all types of people in this world, some need others and then there are people that don´t really need anyone else. At least that´s what some of them say, but sometimes that´s just a way of shielding themselves from getting hurt or moving forward when they prefer to keep things the way they are now. But what if you´re someone that is looking for someone else? Is it important for you that this other person lives close to you or is that something you don´t care about?

Of course it´s better for a relationship if you can meet eachother, but also spend some time together every now and then. But it´s not impossible to be with someone that lives far away from you. Unfortunately that will often mean that one of the two will have to make a sacrifice, by moving to the other and that usually means leaving behind family and friends. It´s not impossible, I´ve seen people leave all that they know behind to be with someone they love. It´s nice in a way that they´re willing to make such a sacrifice but at the same time it´s also difficult to move away from the familiar environment and the people that care about you.

What´s I´ve noticed over the years in online communication is that not everyone is willing to put much effort in it, some will ask you quite fast what your email is or if they can Skype with you. Everyone seems to be in a rush, there is no time to get to know eachother and everything has to be quick and easy. I miss the time when you would write a letter to someone you care about, something you can hold in your hands and where you can see the dedication someone put into writing the letter. Sure you have all types of e-cards but it´s not the same. Romance seems to go extinct, we´re all in such a hurry to get from one good time to the other. It´s rare to find people willing to put an effort in something that could be more than a friendship, but at the same time it makes it easier to find people worth your time.

zaterdag 1 februari 2014

Why don´t you walk on high heels all the time?

I´ve gotten this question several times, often from people who believe that a Domme walks around on high heels all the time. It´s true that I have high heels but it´s not always that practical to wear them, especially when I´m going outside. Not that I´m ashamed to wear high heels but it makes walking a bit less comfortable for me. Because running or walking fast on high heels is often not that easy I prefer to wear platform boots, sure it´s not easy to run with those on either but it´s better than on high heels I can tell you that much?

But it´s a shame that some people still seem to think that a Domme is someone that has to look like the picture they have in their mind, which is of course ridiculous. High heels are just one of the things that are often mentioned when some people describe a Domme. Often it comes down to latex, thigh high boots, a whip and high heels. It´s true that some wear this, I have that as well but is that what defines a Domme?

A lot of people sometimes forget that a Domme is also a person, sure some call themselves a goddess but really we´re all just people like you. I don´t like it when people see me as a fetish, like someone that can satisfy their need for something. With this I mean that they only see me as a fetish and not as a person. If someone has a fantasy of being dominated then I have no problems with that, but when that person only sees me as the person that is going to satisfy his or her fantasy then I can´t say I´m happy about that. The bond between a Dom/Domme and a sub is more than just having the same interest in something.

I did notice that subs that kept asking me why I´m not wearing high heels got quiet when I forced them to wear high heels. Suddenly it was a bit more logic that you don´t wear high heels all the time, of course you´ll always keep the idiots that say whatever they want. These people don´t make good subs anyway, so it´s not a big loss. But I have to admit that I like some understanding and respect, a Domme doesn´t exist to be someones fantasy! Some might disagree, but often these people are on the other end of the whip....