zaterdag 18 oktober 2014

The person you are online and the person you are offline

I don´t think it´s a secret that we´re not always the same person online as when we´re offline, it makes sense because online you feel more safe thus it´s easier to say and do things. Of course this feeling of safety is but an illusion, but somehow that doesn´t keep people from doing things they wouldn´t do offline. But do these actions actually define us or are we just being fools?

People are odd, but usually you know your limits and going crazy online doesn´t happen a lot. At least not in a way where there is no way back, because we might all say or do things we might regret later but most of the time it´s nothing horrible or embarrassing enough to make you wish you never did it. Unfortunately there are people that sometimes make mistakes, showing detailed naked pictures and then they´re blackmailed by the other person with these pictures, it´s distateful but it happens. Which once again shows how vulnerable you can be online, which is why trust should always be earned and never just given.

Especially teenagers have the need to go crazy every now and then, which is fine if you do that in a safe environment but not online! As much as you might want to share something special with someone else you might want to think before you act, because you don´t want to reveal too much because once it´s out there it can´t go back! Which is why it´s important that you don´t give away certain pictures, it´s just too risky and you don´t want those pictures in the wrong hands.

Never let yourself be forced into something you don´t want to do, even as a sub you don´t have to do everything your Dom/Domme tells you. So when your Dom/Domme tells you that he or she wants nude pictures of you then I would definitely ask why he or she wants that. Don´t be afraid to ask questions, it´s not disrespectful and if he or she is offended by your questions then this isn´t a person you want to entrust with something personal like that!

It´s easy to be different online, but that doesn´t mean you have to be different. Just be yourself and do what you would normally do, don´t take a risk you wouldn´t take otherwise because there isn´t much happiness that comes from that. The B in BDSM doesn´t stand for blackmail, so try not to give someone leverage for that to happen!

zondag 12 oktober 2014

Why would you wear gloves?

I´m not talking about the type of gloves you wear in the snow, I´m talking about latex or leather gloves but I think you´d probably figure that out sooner or later! Gloves are not just a piece of clothing to keep your hands warm, they´re a symbol and also quite practical. They´re a part of my fetish outfit and I can´t imagine wearing anything shiny without my gloves.

Gloves are nice but isn´t that too hot to wear in Summer? It is, that´s why I have fingerless gloves especially for Summer, but those are also more practical when I´m writing or typing. It´s actually quite nice to feels something shiny and soft around your hands and arms, it gives comfort and looks good as well. I love long gloves the most, they´re fancy gloves that women used to wear for a fancy ball. I guess some people still wear them for such occasions but the time of the dress seems to be something of the past, which is a shame in a way because I like them.

But you don´t need to wear a dress to walk around with long gloves, you can wear whatever you like and if you like it shiny like me then latex gloves (or pvc) are exactly what you need! Instead of my pale skin you see black shiny arms, I think that looks hotter than a pale skin. Well maybe you disagree but I prefer to keep things shiny! But it´s nice to have some breathing room as well, so wearing short gloves or fingerless gloves are a good way to mix it up a bit.

Do people think you´re weird when you walk around with gloves? Well I don´t know what people think but sometimes some people give you a strange look, but as long as I look human I guess I´m ok. Gloves might be a bit uncommon but not exactly rare, so it´s not something that makes people stare. Even if they would then who cares? If you´re happy wearing gloves and then you should!

Do gloves also play a role in a BDSM session? Not exactly, sometimes a sub is allowed to kiss my glove if he or she worships me but for me gloves are more a symbol than a practical use in a BDSM session. But above all I wear them because I like them! It´s the same with all my other fetish clothing, I wear it because I like it and that should be the main reason to wear a particular kind of clothing.

zondag 5 oktober 2014

Autumn means leather jackets and boots

At least that´s how I see it, because suddenly people will wear more leather jackets and boots. I´d say anyone with a leather and/or boot fetish is having the time of his or her life! But it´s not just nice to look at, it´s even better to wear them yourself! Sliding your feet in some comfortable boots and feeling stronger in your leather jacket. Maybe it´s just in your head but as long as it makes you happy then who really cares!

Of course you can wear your leather jacket and boots in other seasons, but in Autumn it just feels right to me. With a cold wind and rain it´s nice to have protection against that without sweating too much, because no matter how nice leather feels you don´t want to sweat in your clothes! Which is why Summer can be a bummer, especially when it comes to wearing latex or leather. But Autumn gives you options, it´s colder so you can wear thick leather and not sweat that much in it. Which is nice for you and others around you.

I must admit that I´m a bit careful with my leather clothes, I´m not dancing in the rain in leather. In latex I do like to do that but not in leather, I guess I prefer to keep my leather cool and dry. The same counts for my boots, I don´t jump into a puddle with my boots on. I could do it but somehow I see that as a waste, because I don´t want to ruin them! I remember losing on of my spikes on my torture boots when I was jumping around with some friends, it´s just one spike but it felt like much more to me. So as much as I want to go crazy sometimes it´s smart to take good care of your clothes!

It´s amazing though that there are a lot of people out there that switch to leather jackets and boots in Autumn, maybe they just want to keep themselves warm or maybe they feel a bit more comfortable showing their awesome jackets and boots! Some might even go so far to wear leather pants and who knows what else! But that´s often a bit more rare in public, but still a welcome sight whenever you can spot someone wearing something shiny. Winter might be the season of miracles but for me Autumn is the season to see wishes come true!