zaterdag 18 april 2015

Professional or just for fun?

It´s a question you´ll get every now and then as a Dom/Domme, are you a professional or just for fun? When I tell that person that I´m a professional Domme then some people don´t always understand what that exactly means. I can´t speak for every Dom/Domme but it usually means you pay to play and it also means that it´s BDSM and not sex! I know some Doms/Dommes have different rules, but a lot of professional Doms/Dommes don´t have sex with their subs.

Perhaps you might get the idea that it´s better to be with a Dom/Domme who just does it for fun. But don´t forget that there is a good chance that this is someone who isn´t familiar with BDSM and that this isn´t a guarantee for sex. I would like to add that there are a lot of Doms/Dommes out there that aren´t professional but do know their stuff about BDSM, so it´s not like only a pro knows what´s best.

I know that there are people that say that professional Doms/Dommes are stuck up assholes, which might sometimes be true but that doesn´t describe everyone! But there are definitely some people out there that give other Doms/Dommes a bad name. Just remember that people that talk big online aren´t always that interesting as they pretend to be, usually the more noise they make the bigger the chance that this is just someone that needs attention.

I don´t really understand the need for hate when it comes to professional or not, we´re all enjoying BDSM so does it really matter? I´m not saying we should all be friends but why the hostility towards someone else just because they´re not professional? Not professional doesn´t mean bad, it actually means that you don´t pay to play.

As a new sub you might want to start with a professional Dom/Domme, I think that this person can help you out getting familiar with BDSM. But if you don´t feel like spending money on a session then you can always try to find a friendly Dom/Domme that just does it for fun. But these might be more rare then you think!

zondag 12 april 2015

Sex with your clothes on!

I know that some people are quick with getting their clothes off but think about it, when you wear something sexy then why hurry to get out of that? I don´t know about you but I find a body in latex way hotter than just a naked body, because in my opinion a naked body isn´t that attractive just like that. Maybe one of the reasons why some people prefer to have sex with the lights off....

In case you don´t understand how you can have sex with your clothes on then I will point you to the nearest fetish shop and buy clothes with holes in the right places so you enjoy a sexy outfit and still be able to get more intimate. Not only does this look good, it also feels good!

Did you know that some women prefer to keep their clothes on when someone fingers them? The same counts for guys that like to feel their erection pressed against latex or leather and then their partner get busy with that. If you don´t like that then that´s probably not going to cause problems, but I can recommend giving it a try!

One thing you might want to be careful with, especially guys that ejaculate inside their latex suit might have something nasty to clean up. If you don´t care about that then by all means do whatever you like, otherwise you might want to have an emergency zipper to unload before it´s too late. As I mentioned before a lot of fetish outfits have holes in all the right places.

Do clothes make you more attractive? I think they can definitely add to your look, I mean a lot of people look hot in latex and even when you´re not confident with your looks you can boost your appearance and hopefully with that your confidence. Just be careful that people don´t want to have sex with you just because you look hot in an outfit, if that´s the main reason why someone wants sex with you then that might be someone you want to avoid. Unless you´re ok with that, then by all means do whatever makes you happy!

zaterdag 4 april 2015

Online domination is fake?

These days it´s nothing new, online domination. It´s the perfect way for Doms/Dommes to reach people that live too far away for a visit, but how effective is it? Could you call online domination truly domination?

I think most Doms/Dommes prefer to get their hands on their sub(s), this isn´t just more fun but it also creates a stronger bond between Dom/Domme and sub. But that doesn´t mean that online domination is fake or doesn´t mean a thing! On the contrary, it can also create a strong bond between a Dom/Domme and sub. However this bond is one strongly based on trust, especially if the contact is only via messages.

Isn´t trust always a part of the bond between a Dom/Domme and sub? It is, but there´s more to it if you meet eachother in person. When you haven´t met eachother then trust becomes an even more important factor in the bond, because it´s all you have at that point. Everything that is being said can be false, it´s difficult to check when you can´t even see eachother. But lies will eventually be discovered, it´s just a shame to waste time on such a thing. Which is why trust is usually earned and not automaticly given.

Online domination can be a powerful thing, but it can only be as strong as you let it become. If you taint it with lies or deception then it won´t hold. But the same could be said in a session, the difference is that you have a better chance to see through the lies when you meet someone in person. Eventhough some people are pretty good liars.

As much as you want to doubt people or assume that people lie it´s not the best way of handling it, when someone treats you with respect and is honest to you then you can always give someone a chance. If his or her words are truly honest remains to be seen, but to judge someone so quickly is a bit harsh. It´s not like you want to reveal everything at once, trust must be earned and so a strong bond can be formed if you give it time. This can lead to pleasant conversations and a powerful connection with the other.

Online domination isn´t fake, it´s just a different way of communicating with your subs and in a time with modern technology that isn´t a bad thing. Just remember that online people could claim to be anyone, it´s the trick to find someone worth talking to. In the end it´s still better to meet people in person, but online domination can be a good alternative. Especially when you meet people that live far away and with whom you have a good connection. It might be a challenge but if the bond between you two is strong then I´m certain that you can explore further than just pleasant conversations.