zondag 10 augustus 2014

Sex and nudity on BDSM sites

Have you noticed the amount of sex requests and/or pictures with nudity on BDSM sites? It bothers me that this is how most people seem to present themselves on these sites, like a desperate sex fiend with no real interest in BDSM. I guess a BDSM site is for a lot of people just a site to get in contact with some kinky people to have sex with. Which is a shame, but I guess it can´t be avoided....


The amount of nude pictures or even pictures of people having sex seem to get the most likes while it´s a BDSM site, it´s crazy but this is what most people on that site seem to prefer. But wouldn´t it make more sense that they go to a sex site? And if they´re looking for someone to have sex with or a relationship then there are dating sites! But no BDSM sites are probably the best place to look for a quick shag with a random stranger, especially when I look at the amount of messages I get that have this as the main subject if there is even a subject in some of those messages. It´s a shame that these sites ars so tainted with sex and nudity that there isn´t much left for BDSM.


I don´t have a problem with sex and nudity isn´t horrible, but there is a time and a place for everything and spamming a site with this doesn´t make it more fun to look at. Especially when the subjects about BDSM disappear to the background with all the talk about sex, it really sucks that this is what people seem to prefer to talk about the most. At least the majority or the most active people on the site. Making a new BDSM site doesn´t help because the people that spam with sex and nudity will just follow to that site as well. Once again there is nothing wrong with sex and nudity but it really sucks that this is what seems to be the biggest thing on a BDSM site.


What´s probably the worst thing is that it sends the wrong message to people that are new to BDSM, that sex and nudity are important in BDSM or that this is what it´s all about in BDSM. Which often leads to people that think that a professional dominatrix has sex with her subs during a session and will sometimes expect that or ask for that. I hate that, I hate that the amount of sex and nudity is making it difficult for helping people to realize what BDSM is about and people that have real questions see their thread disappear in an ocean of sex requests or stupid sex questions.


I´m not saying that sex and nudity should be forbidden on a BDSM site but it should definately be moderated, as in keep things on the subject and people that want something else can move on to another site. Maybe this is the world we live in now, where it´s all about sex and talking about other things is just not interesting anymore. Which is a shame, but it´s more and more a reality....

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