Laces or zipper?

I hear often that people prefer laces over a zipper, they claim that laces are more sensual and thus build up more sexual tension. But is that really true? Aren´t zippers just as sensual, sure it´s easier and faster to use zippers but that doesn´t mean that everything has to go fast. Another good thing about zippers is that they don´t always stand out so much, on my black boots you can hardly see the zippers and with laces that´s not always the case. But I guess we all have our own preference.

No matter how much I like zippers I still hold love for laces, for a corset I definately prefer laces. You can wear it tighter, so tight that my breasts almost pop out. Then you know that it´s good, when things are tight. Like my choker, which makes it harder for me to breath and yet it feels just that much better. Zippers give you more room to breath, as they are less tight and are more for being comfortable. Something I prefer with boots, I like it tight but not too tight that my feet can´t breath.

But no matter how much you like laces and zippers, in the end people won´t concentrate on such things when you´re wearing a tight latex catsuit or when you wear thigh high boots. But a nice compliment to your clothes can make a difference, when a sub uses his or her mouth to unzip you. The same can be said about laces, though that might be a bit more difficult. But practice makes perfect!!!!

It doesn´t really matter what you use, both have beautiful qualities and it´s not always easy to choose. Like black thigh high boots look beautiful with red laces, but they also look nice with a black zipper because that camouflages it and makes it look like the boots are a part of you. Unfortunately there is also a downside for both laces and zippers. A zipper can get stuck, which makes it annoying to get out of boots or pants. Laces can get into a knot, which can be difficult to get out of. Still it´s nothing that should keep you from using them, both for practical and sensual use!

Only in the bedroom Dom/Domme

Lately I´ve been hearing negative things about Doms/Dommes that are only a Dom/Domme at home, but when they go outside then they drop their role. So let me first say that I didn´t think being a Dom/Domme was a role, sure you have roleplay but being a Dom/Domme is more than playing a role. Also is it so wrong that you´re only a Dom/Domme inside the house? I mean if you have family, friends or neighbours that don´t understand it and most likely won´t accept you as a Dom/Domme, then I can understand why you wouldn´t feel comfortable outside the house. It´s not that as a Dom/Domme that you have no fears or hesitations, in the end you´re human just like the rest.

Some people seem to think that being Dom/Domme is like a switch you can turn on and off, well I can say with certain that this isn´t the truth. You´re either a Dom/Domme or you´re not, sure you can be a switch but the point is that there isn´t an off button for being a Dom/Domme. Then there are some that believe that if you don´t wear certain clothes you´re not a Dom/Domme, as if every Dom/Domme wears latex or leather. I know that there is a stereotype for the typical Dom/Domme, but that doesn´t mean that this is how you have to act or look to be accepted as a Dom/Domme.

Just because you only show your Dom/Domme side in the bedroom, doesn´t mean that you´re less dominant than a Dom/Domme who shows his or her dominant side outside the house. It´s not a contest who the most dominant is, though some would like to believe that it is. Though just putting on some thigh high boots, with a whip in hand and commanding other people doesn´t really make you a Dom/Domme. Let´s just say if you have doubts if you´re a Dom/Domme, then you´re probably not one, though you could be a switch which could give you some confusion. Everything isn´t always that clear, at least not as clear as you would like it to be. Sometimes you have to discover and explore, find out who you are and what you like.

So this whole you´re less dominant just because you´re only a Dom/Domme in the bedroom makes no sense, actually it would only prove that the one saying it probably knows less about domination and being a Dom/Domme than the one who he or she accuses. Love and respect your fellow Dom/Domme, they might do things different than you but does that really make them less than you?

It´s not my thing but I like to see it

A lot of times I get messages from people that like to see me in latex, but then they quickly mention that they don´t like to wear it themselves. It´s the same type of response I get from people that love me for being goth, they like to see me as a goth but have nothing with it themselves. I´m not saying that it´s weird, but I don´t really understand what they expect from me. Because often these messages are full of remarks how beautiful I am and how much they want me. But what about me? I see a boring guy or girl that doens´t want to wear latex, has nothing with anything goth and I´m supposed to roll over and play fuck doll?

Now don´t get me wrong, I appreciate compliments but I´m sick and tired of being approached by losers who have nothing with the things I love and yet they want to be more than just a friend. I´ll make this pretty clear here, I don´t have any interest in people who don´t like latex or leather! I´ve been in vanilla relationships and they´re boring as hell, well maybe not as hell but boring nonetheless.

Some people don´t understand that in a relationship it´s give and take, well in a D/s relationship one takes a bit more than he or she gives but still it comes down to the same thing. I always point these type of people towards a dvd, rent a movie with women in latex and you´ll have a good time. For example the Matrix has a fair share of latex lovelies.

If you´re interested in someone who has a fetish for latex or leather, then it definately works in your favour if you have that same interest. Not just to look at but also to wear it yourself, if you don´t share this passion then it might be difficult to get close to someone like that. I don´t think everyone would see the need for this shared passion but I think it will definately work in your advantage.

Naughty dreams

Sometimes people ask me how I sleep, well I have to admit I sleep like everyone else in a bed. Though I do have a coffin, which keeps me cool on a hot and sunny day. But under normal circumstances I prefer to sleep in a bed, I´m not an animal....well not all the time!!!! But when it comes to what I wear in bed then I have to admit it´s not always as spicy as you might think. Sleeping in latex is nice but sometimes it´s not that comfortable, especially when it´s hot.

When I sleep alone I don´t always feel the need to dress up, I´m not in bed to please myself.....well not all the time!!!! Sometimes it´s nice to dress up, to feel sexy and wanted. But when there is no one else around to appreciate it, then you can lose interest quickly. Though making some naughty pictures is nice, which give me a smile later and if I feel like sharing they do even more for others.

So what´s nice to wear in bed? Well that depends on the weather, if it´s hot then you want to avoid clothing that makes you sweat. Trust me when I say that you won´t get much sleep and I don´t mean that in a good way! But when it´s not so hot then latex is a good way to stay comfortable during the cold nights. Some latex stockings and a latex body suit can do wonders, I guess you could also wear a catsuit but I prefer to let a part of my body breath when I go to sleep. When it´s too hot for latex you could switch so silk, which might not sound that appealing at first but it still has a shiny and soft effect on your skin. Also less is better when it´s hot, though I prefer not to go full nude in bed....well not all the time!!!!

I guess you have to figure out what makes you feel comfortable in the middle of the night, if you want to feel sexy or if you just want to get some sleep. Either way I´m certain you´ll have your naughty dreams, if not then maybe this of me picture might help....it helps me all the time!!!!

Going to hell?

No I´m not talking about the weather, sure it´s hot as hell here but that´s not the reason why I want to bring this up.I´m talking about doing something that´s quite forbidden, like the forbidden fruit and it´s just as juicy. Do you have no idea what I´m talking about? Well I´m talking about the rubber nun fantasy!!!! No I don´t mean one of those stiff, stuck up women from a monestary. I´m talking about a woman in a rubber nun outfit, who looks shiny and delicious at the same time. Someone that gets on her knees and knows how to give you a good time, who is divine with not just her hands but also her tongue.

But why is it so appealing? This whole fetish about a rubber nun? Maybe it´s because a nun is forbidden, like for some men a lesbian is the ultimate fetish as she´s not interested in you but the desire to make her interested in you makes it worth the try. Though I would have to warn men with this desire that this won´t work if the woman truly is lesbian, it does mean that she´s only interested in women. Anyway a nun is a woman who devotes her life to serving God, which also means no sex with men (or women for that matter). It´s always the one thing you can´t have, but what you want that makes it so interesting. Though it could be that you´re just into rubber and like the nun outfit because it´s a long outfit with a lot of rubber!!!!

Wether you believe in God or not, I think it´s safe to say that this fantasy is blasphemy in one way or another. So is it worth it? Worth going to hell for a fantasy? Well if the sex is good and the memories last a long time then I´d say yes. Besides who knows what kind of naughty nuns you´ll find down there!!!!

Real Doms/Dommes?

Often I wonder how some people have the nerve to call themselves a Dom/Domme, I mean in their actions and also words they prove the complete opposite. Now I´m not here to judge, because we all have our moments where things are a bit less glorious. But when I see some Doms/Dommes slaughter someone in a forum just because he doesn´t fit to their standards, I can´t help but wonder who they think they are. I have to admit the person who they butchered didn´t come over as the sharpest tool in the shed, no question about that, but then to talk so high and mighty as if what they say is what counts. That´s the part where I lose my respect for them, such arrogance and such ignorance.

Maybe that´s part of being a real Dom/Domme, to talk high and mighty. To think you´re better than everyone else and that only your opinion matters. Now as nice as this might sound, this is not the truth. First of all you´re a person, you have opinions and there is nothing wrong with that. But to think that your opinion is the one that truly matters and that it is a fact just because you think it is makes me sick.

I don´t hold all the answers, my opinion isn´t the law and I never thought that it was or will be. Probably one of the first things you´ll say to your sub is know your place, but looking at some of these Doms/Dommes I wonder who´s going to tell them? They observe conversations from their thrones high above the masses, then to intervene with their divine words of wisdom and so he or she has spoken his or her words of truth which must then be accepted as facts. But these small minded creatures don´t seem to understand that they are but a splinter in the claw of BDSM, they´re irritating but nothing that can´t be removed!

What is a real Dom/Domme? Well I´d say someone that respects his or her sub, someone that respects the opinions of others even when his or her own opinion is in conflict with that specific opinion. But to be honest with you I don´t like the term real in front of Dom/Domme, you either are or you are not!

Casual but kinky

Now that the temperature is rising, with a lot of sun and not much shade, it´s not easy to walk in latex or leather. Sure for some lovers, like me, it´s difficult to let go and so you keep wearing it until you drop. But you don´t have to, there are other clothes that also have a stimulant effect on your fetish side. Though this might not be the same for everyone, I know that I have certain interests outside the latex and leather outfits.

Personally I love riding clothes, some shiny boots and some tight riding pants that leave little to imagination. Add a whip to that and you have one of my favourite Summer outfits! People seem to find it less odd when I walk with a whip in riding clothes then when I walk with a whip in a latex catsuit. But some wetlook leggings also have this nice shiny effect on me, it´s not quite the same but works well enough for me to excite me. I also love the goth look, which is what I would normally wear before I embraced my fetish side. But I never lost the love for the goth look, anything dark and ominous looks good on me and I like to wear it as well.

Unfortunately black isn´t the colour you want to wear in the Summer, unless you´re as stubborn as me and keep wearing it anyway. So what looks hot and yet keeps you cool? I´d say red is a good eye catcher, wear a red dress with black boots and you´ll be like a lighthouse in the middle of a storm because you´ll draw a lot of people towards you. But blue is also a cool colour, it´s a safe colour as well because blue jeans don´t really stick out in a crowd. So if you like to be more casual and blend in that´s a safe choice, but if you´re used to wearing latex out in public I doubt you would want to play it safe.

Of course you can always keep a part of your clothing in your fetish style, like some leather underwear for example. It might suprise a vanilla lover, that under those blue jeans some kinky shorts appear. But isn´t that half of the fun? To be something more than people first thought you were. Like some piercings through your nipples, now that´s something I would always consider as a pleasant suprise. So blend in people, fool the vanilla crowd with your casual outfits but keep the naughty parts always close to your private parts!!!!